Breakup Therapist in Tucson: Healing After Heartbreak

When the Breakup Still Hurts Every Day

It’s been weeks (or even months) since the breakup, and life still feels upside down. You do your best to get through the day, but everything reminds you of your ex. Their things are still around, the places you used to go trigger memories, and your mind just won’t stop replaying what happened.

Some mornings, the loneliness feels unbearable. At night, you can’t sleep. You swing between missing them desperately and feeling furious they left. On top of it all, you find yourself doubting your own worth—wondering if you’re “too much,” “not enough,” or somehow permanently broken. Friends try to help, but their comfort only goes so far. Deep down, you’re asking: Will this pain ever end?

If this sounds familiar, you’re not alone. Many people in Tucson reach out to me when a breakup has left them feeling lost, devastated, and unsure how to move forward.

Rediscovering Your Worth After a Breakup

I’m Jacob Gotwals, a Licensed Professional Counselor and EMDR Certified Therapist in Tucson. I help intelligent adults who are devastated by a breakup recover their happiness and rebuild meaningful lives.

Breakups can make you forget who you are. In therapy, I’ll remind you of your worth, wisdom, and resilience. Together, we’ll:

• Process the grief and overwhelming emotions.

• Make sense of the relationship that ended.

• Explore your involvement with your former partner and find healthy boundaries.

• Learn ways to manage stress, anxiety, and sleepless nights.

• Find space for humor, hope, and even laughter again.

Over time, you’ll gain a sense of peace and closure. And when you’re ready, you’ll step back into life with clarity, confidence, and even excitement for what’s ahead.

When Breakups Trigger Old Wounds

For some people, the end of a relationship stirs up old pain:

• Unpleasant memories of being neglected or hurt in the past.

• Overwhelming feelings—fear, anger, guilt, or emotional numbness.

• Physical symptoms like fatigue, headaches, or stomach issues.

You may also notice intense patterns in how you react: feeling desperate to reconnect with your ex or, on the other hand, wanting to shut down emotionally and avoid relying on anyone. Sometimes you swing between these extremes.

This often happens because a breakup can trigger unresolved trauma or attachment wounds. The good news? These deeper issues can be healed.

How Therapy Can Help You Heal and Grow

In our work together, I’ll help you recognize and heal the unresolved issues that have been shaping your relationships for years. Using approaches like:

• EMDR therapy (an evidence-based approach for healing trauma), and

• Guided imagery with ideal parent figures (to repair early attachment wounds),

…we’ll address the root causes, not just the breakup itself. This creates lasting change—not only helping you recover from this heartbreak, but freeing you to have healthier, more vibrant relationships in the future.

Why Work With Me as Your Breakup Therapist in Tucson

With over a decade of counseling experience, I’ve guided many clients through the darkest seasons of heartbreak. I combine a compassionate, down-to-earth style with powerful, evidence-based tools. Clients often tell me that therapy with me feels both deeply supportive and refreshingly hopeful.

My goal isn’t just to help you “get over” your ex. It’s to help you rediscover joy, connection, and purpose in your life—so that you come out of this breakup not just surviving, but thriving.

Take the Next Step Toward Healing

You don’t have to keep waking up to that heavy feeling in your chest. Support is available. Healing is possible.

I invite you to schedule a free 15-minute phone consultation with me. Let’s talk about what you’re going through and see if I might be the right fit to help.

👉 Contact me today to schedule your free consultation.

You deserve support from someone who understands both the heartbreak of a breakup and the deeper wounds it can awaken. Together, we can help you heal and move forward with strength and hope.

Frequently Asked Questions

1. What does a breakup therapist do?
A breakup therapist helps you process the pain of heartbreak, understand the relationship that ended, and support you in rebuilding your life with confidence and clarity.

2. How long does breakup therapy usually take?
It depends on your unique needs. Some clients come for a few months, while others find long-term support helpful, especially if trauma or attachment wounds surface.

3. Do I have to talk about my ex the whole time?
Not at all. Therapy is about you. While we may talk about your ex, our main focus is on your healing, growth, and future.

4. What if my breakup brought up past trauma?
This is common. I use EMDR and other approaches that address both recent heartbreak and deeper unresolved issues, so you can truly heal.

5. Can therapy really help me stop missing my ex?
Yes—therapy can help you manage the longing, make sense of the relationship, and gradually release the grip it has on you.

6. I’m not ready to date again. Can I still start therapy?
Absolutely. Therapy isn’t about rushing you forward—it’s about helping you feel whole again at your own pace.

7. Is breakup therapy different from general counseling?
Yes. Breakup therapy focuses specifically on the unique pain of heartbreak and often incorporates trauma and attachment work.

8. Do you offer online therapy in Tucson?
Yes, I provide online therapy.

9. How do I know if you’re the right therapist for me?
The best way is to schedule a free consultation. You’ll get a feel for how I work and whether it feels like a good fit.

10. Is therapy worth the cost?
Many clients say therapy was one of the best investments they’ve made in themselves—because it changed not only how they felt after the breakup, but how they approach relationships and life moving forward.