Relationship Counseling in Tucson: Find Support, Healing, and Connection
Feeling Stuck in Your Relationships?
If you’ve been struggling in your relationships, you probably feel it everywhere — in your mood, your energy, even your body. Maybe your chest feels tight, your sleep is restless, or your mind just won’t stop replaying the same fights and worries.
You’ve tried talking it through, reading books, and getting advice from friends, but nothing really changes. You love deeply and care about connection — yet somehow, the same painful patterns keep showing up.
If this sounds familiar, you’re not alone. Many caring, thoughtful people in Tucson reach a point where they realize they can’t fix it on their own. That’s where relationship counseling in Tucson can make a difference.
Why Relationships Can Feel So Hard
When you’re struggling with relationships, it’s easy to feel frustrated and even hopeless. You might catch yourself asking:
“Why do we keep having the same fight over and over?”
“Why do I shut down, or why does my partner pull away when things get hard?”
“What’s wrong with me — or with us?”
The truth is, struggles like these don’t happen because you’re broken, lazy, or unlovable. They usually come from old wounds and protective habits that once helped you survive but now get in the way of connection. Counseling gives you a safe space to untangle those patterns and learn new ways to show up in your relationships.
How I Can Help You Heal and Grow
Hi, I’m Jacob Gotwals, a Licensed Professional Counselor and EMDR Certified Therapist in Tucson. I work with people who want more from their relationships — more honesty, more intimacy, more trust, more love.
My style is warm, compassionate, and straightforward. I won’t just sit quietly while you struggle. I’ll compassionately name what I see, help you understand where it comes from, and give you tools you can start using right away.
The approaches I use include:
Relational Life Therapy (RLT): Honest and direct therapy that gets to the root of relationship issues.
EMDR Therapy: A powerful way to heal old hurts that still affect your relationships.
Guided Imagery with Ideal Parent Figures: Deep attachment healing that helps you feel more secure and worthy of love.
Together, these approaches help you heal past pain, practice new skills, and build stronger connections.
Couples Counseling in Tucson: Repair and Reconnect
Even the most loving couples can get stuck. Maybe you feel like:
You’re having the same fight again and again
The distance between you is growing
Resentment is building and won’t go away
You’re questioning whether you’re meant to be together, but you’re not ready to give up
In couples counseling in Tucson, I’ll help you and your partner step out of the cycle that’s wearing you down. We’ll work on repairing trust, softening resentment, and creating a more balanced partnership where both of you feel heard and valued.
The love is still there — counseling can help you uncover it again.
Individual Relationship Counseling in Tucson: Understanding Yourself and Others
Sometimes the best way to work on your relationships is to start with yourself. Maybe you notice patterns like people-pleasing, fearing rejection, or shutting down when things get hard. Maybe you keep choosing partners who aren’t good for you, or you’re not sure whether to stay in or leave a relationship.
Through individual relationship counseling in Tucson, you’ll:
Get clarity about your patterns and where they come from
Heal old wounds that keep showing up in your connections
Build confidence and set healthy boundaries
Learn how to communicate with strength and kindness
When you feel more secure in yourself, your relationships naturally begin to shift for the better.
Breakup Therapy in Tucson: Healing After Heartbreak
If you’re going through a breakup, you already know how painful it can be. Some days you miss your ex so much it hurts, other days you feel angry, and at night the loneliness can feel unbearable. Friends want to help, but their comfort only goes so far.
In breakup therapy in Tucson, I’ll help you:
Process the grief and overwhelming emotions
Understand the relationship that ended
Heal trauma or attachment wounds the breakup may have triggered
Rediscover your sense of worth, hope, and direction
Breakups are painful, but they can also be a turning point — a chance to rebuild your life on stronger, healthier ground. You don’t have to go through it alone.
Why Clients Choose to Work With Me
I bring more than professional training to this work — I bring lived experience. I know what it’s like to struggle in relationships, to feel heartbreak, and to wonder if things can ever change.
Clients often tell me that counseling with me feels supportive, grounding, and hopeful. They appreciate that I’m kind and compassionate, but also direct and honest when it’s needed. My role is to help you see your patterns clearly, heal what’s been hurting, and practice new ways of connecting that feel authentic and lasting.
What You Can Expect From Counseling
Here’s how we’ll move forward together:
Start with your story – You’ll share what’s happening now and what you want to change.
Explore the deeper roots – We’ll uncover old wounds or protective patterns that keep getting in the way.
Do the healing work – Using RLT, EMDR, and other tools, we’ll reprocess painful experiences and problematic patterns so they lose their grip.
Practice new skills – I’ll coach you in healthier communication and boundaries in real time.
Notice the shift – Over time, you’ll feel more secure, more connected, and more hopeful.
FAQs About Relationship Counseling in Tucson
Do I need to be in a couple to benefit?
No. Many people work individually and see their relationships improve as they grow.
How is counseling different from coaching?
Coaching is mostly about learning skills. Counseling can include skill training, but it goes deeper — it heals wounds that keep problematic patterns alive.
How long will it take?
It depends. Some people feel relief in a few weeks or months, while others choose longer work for lasting change and ongoing support.
What if my partner doesn’t want to come?
That’s okay. You can start counseling on your own and still make meaningful progress.
Can counseling really help after a breakup?
Yes. Breakup therapy helps you grieve, heal, and rebuild your life with more clarity and strength.
Do you work online?
Yes. I offer secure online counseling for individuals and couples.
Are you LGBTQ+ and poly-friendly?
Absolutely. I welcome LGBTQ+ clients and people in polyamorous or ethically non-monogamous relationships, and I am also kink-friendly.
Will you tell us whether to stay together or separate?
No. My role is to help you heal and gain clarity so you can make the decision that feels right for you.
How do I start?
Schedule a free consultation. It’s a no-pressure way to talk through your needs and see if we’re a good fit.