Communication Training

In my communication training, I share an approach to life that has helped make my home and work relationships more meaningful, enjoyable and effective. Based on Marshall Rosenberg's "Nonviolent Communication", this approach develops our natural ability to relate compassionately with ourselves and others. This approach has supported me in having a fuller, deeper experience of life - even in times of conflict and stress. I have been amazed at the difference the skills have made in my own life. It has given me confidence that I can handle any life situation.

Connect with the life in yourself and others. In my experience, our habitual way of being with ourselves and others can be quite judgmental - especially when we are under stress. We often judge ourselves and others as wrong and bad when things are not going our way, and express this thinking in judgmental communication. I would like to support you in learning to recognize and transform this judgmental state of consciousness into a more life-connected state, where we transcend our judgments and connect on a deeper level beyond right and wrong - the level of our universal human emotions, needs and values.

Transform conflict into connection. Judgmental thinking and relating tends to increase conflict, as others either rebel (responding defensively to our judgments) or submit (agreeing with us now, and feeling resentful toward us later). When we connect at the universal level, we create a state of powerfully vulnerable mutual compassion and understanding in which each other's natural human motivations become clear and explicit. When we reach this level of connection, conflict melts away, solutions become obvious, and we can celebrate and mourn together from a place of shared understanding - moving from separation to unity.

Free yourself from cultural conditioning. All too often, we do things with resentment, just because we think we "should" or "have to". This is action that follows from the judgmental state of consciousness in which there is a "right" thing to do, usually dependent on our roles (as "father", "mother", "husband", "wife", "employee", "citizen", etc). In the state, we are being controlled by our roles - we don't have roles, our roles "have us". We can turn all this around at the universal level of consciousness - transcending our roles and giving us more options. How are our deepest universal human needs and values being served (or not) by our choices?

I offer three types of training (both face-to-face and by phone):

• Mentorships for individuals: for one-on-one training and ongoing support for your learning.
• Seminars for individuals: where you come to me for training, usually in a small group setting.
• Trainings for organizations and groups: where I go to your organization to offer training.

I also offer communication training materials for sale (at CNVC's International Intensive Trainings).

If you would like to take the next steps toward training with me:

• Read what participants have said about their experiences with me.
• Explore the seminars and trainings I currently offer.
• To explore mentorship with me or training for your organization, first read about my fees, then contact me so we can discuss your needs.

I look forward to hearing from you.

Jacob Gotwals, Ph.D.
Human Potential Arts LLC


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